Yes, You Can Go to Paris

The Eiffel Tower from the Seine.

An International Woman of Mystery, I am not. But the Jersey Girl likes to get around.

So, how do you travel to foreign lands while dealing with a food allergy?

Very carefully, my friends.

The Husband and moi had the magnifique opportunity to travel to Paris last May.

The Jersey Girl doing what she does, shoe shopping.

Le sigh.

It was beyond amazing, but eating did pose some trials and tribulations for yours truly.

But have no fear! I am here to share with you what we learned while rocking out on the Champs Elysees and other fab places all throughout the City of Lights.

The Husband eating his fav - escargots.

... and chillin' on a boat ride.

... and drinking a beer. A beer??? Where's your wine, Mark?

Here's me - eating and I'm alive.

Woo-hoo! Dang, my hair is short.

In case you’re new to my blog, the Jersey Girl has a life-threatening food allergy to all nuts, peanuts, peanut butter and nut oils. In addition, I also have rockin’ food allergies to: fruits with pits (peaches, plums, cherries, etc.), avocado and some other produce type things that I dig. Ironically, my allergies to the fruits did not happen until I hit my 20s, because seriously, I love me some Jersey peaches and watermelon, and guacamole is really delish, but yeah. I can’t eat that schtuff.

So here’s my non-scientific travel advice when heading to Paris with a food allergy, specifically to nuts and peanuts:

1. Get it in writing. Go immediately to select wisely and order allergy cards in the language you need. My foreign-language speaking skills are non-existent. Yes, I have three years of high school French, one year of high school Italian and four years of college Italian under my belt, and I still suck. Don’t judge me. Keep the cards with you at all times while traveling.

2. Have a well-stocked supply of drugs. Make sure all your meds, inhalers, pills, needles, etc. are renewed. Carry these things with you at all times while you stay on foreign land. You don’t need to tell me twice that this is totally Lindsay Lohan, but you gots to do what you gots to do. I am not a druggie, I swear.

3. Show the cards mentioned above to the server immediately.

4. Ask for menus in English. I know, I know. This has “dumb American” written all over it, but yeah. I am a dumb American, who really doesn’t want to kick the bucket while on vacay. So, just ask for the menu in anglaise, and pretend the snooty French peeps aren’t laughing at you.

5. Have a plan. The Husband and moi love to roam the streets on vacay and just randomly pick a bar or a pub or a bistro or a café to chill and hang and eat at non-touristy, off-the-beaten-path kind of places. This is amazingly fun to do – in countries where English is spoken. But, in Paris our plan to have no plan didn’t really work out. Our Day 1 dinner ended with a sad, hungry, teary-eyed and jet-lagged Susan. The Husband sprung into action and got me to a café stat with a big glass of wine and crepes and ice cream. Eternal happiness.

6. Eat at restaurants where there is an English-speaking person on staff. You can find out just by perusing the menus on the outside of the restaurants or cafes or asking the mater di.

7. Ask your hotel staff for help. We stayed at the fabulous Hotel Residence Foch. It is a very small hotel in the 16th Arrondisement. The hotel staff was made of awesome! Upon returning from our debacle of a dining experience on Day 1, the peeps at our hotel gave us great recommendations. They knew of places that were accommodating for food allergy sufferers. They also pointed us in the direction of places where employees speak English. The hotel employees were so amazing. They really helped me get my French food on.

8. Find the word “olive oil” on your menu. Point to it and tell the waiter, “bon” or good. The Husband and I believe part of our Day 1 disaster occurred because of olive oil being lost in translation. The restaurant staff believed I was allergic to olive oil. But, olive oil is all good in the hood for me. If you are allergic to olive oil, I got nothing for ya.

9. Approach street vendors and bakeries with caution. While I totally enjoyed many sandwiches and tartines from the awesome street vendors, I kept my orders very, very basic: Ham and cheese, tomato. The bakeries have SO MANY amazingly fabulous creations, but I pretty much stuck with a croissant or chocolate croissant and coffee. Tres boring, I KNOW! This goes against everything I believe in, however; being daring with the baked goods in a place where the English is very limited was not worth the risk of going into anaphylactic shock. Seriously. That would be the ultimate buzz kill.

10. Carry a French dictionary. My husband laughed at me for this one, but if there is a word on the menu that you don't know, it's great to look it up to make sure you know what you're eating. This is how I figured out the olive oil thing. See, I'm not entirely hopeless.

11. If you have a great experience at a restaurant, return. The Husband and I ate at a few restaurants and cafes more than once because the service and attention were fantastic. Not to mention the food was amazing. Knowing that the service is good and that your food allergy is not going to be a big old problem makes dining out so much more enjoyable. So, I highly recommend you do this. One restaurant we loved was:

Chez Andre, 12 rue Marbeuf, Phone: 01 47 20 59 57

The host and waitresses remembered each time we returned that I was allergic to nuts. Oo la la. That rocked!

Bon appetit and happy travels!

Dining Out With a Food Allergy

In a twist of fate that is a bit funny, a bit evil, a bit c’est la vie, I am a lova of dining out and a sufferer of food allergies.

Owe you one there, God.

But, I thought this is a great opportunity to help all y’all out there who may have the same affliction. Maybe you just found out you can’t groove on cashews anymore. Or, perhaps one of your kiddies has the good ole food allergy and you’re freaking. You’re scared. You don’t know how to let him or her out in the world to just eat and enjoy.

So, I will be posting periodically on my tips and procedures for dealing with this sometimes perplexing condition.

Depending on who you speak to, some want you to fear living and eating and traveling and just doing what you do because your body reacts in a really bad way to a certain food. The allergist I visited a year ago tried to put the fear of God into me about going to Phillies games and to Paris and to restaurants and to everywhere.

That didn’t bode well for a girl whose husband has season tickets to Citizens Bank Park. Not to mention the already booked plans to go to Paris in May 2009. And come to think of it, eating out and trying new things rock. If you can’t do them, what’s the point of living?

I so did not visit that guy again.

I’m not saying I’m doing this the right way at all.

But the fear that so many have about living with a food allergy. Yeah. I don’t have that.

Look, I’ve had my share of being thisclose to kicking the bucket because I ate a stupid nut or peanut. But, in my 33 years of being here, I’ve really had only three incidents in which I have swallowed a culprit food and have gone into instant anaphylactic shock. For those of you who don’t know what anaphylaxis is, it’s really bad and really fatal and really fast and really scary. It is wise to prevent it from happening. Ever.

So, here are my Dining Out Tips with a Food Allergy. If you have any you would like to add, please post in the Comments.

1. If you’re not sure, call the restaurant. I do this all the time. Call in the day or during off hours. If the person you speak to is not accommodating, do not go to the restaurant. But usually, the person you do speak to is accommodating. In the past six months, I called the Israeli restaurant Zahav and the tapas restaurant Amada. Why did I call? Well, I know that Middle Eastern and Spanish cuisines usually contain a lot of nuts. Both places were SO helpful and encouraging regarding my food allergy. I told the hostess at each restaurant that I have a life-threatening allergy to nuts and peanuts. Will this pose a problem if I eat at your restaurant? Both hostesses said they accommodate customers with food allergies all the time. Both restaurants made a note of my food allergy prior to the reservations. I’ve also called Thai restaurants, Chinese restaurants and Japanese restaurants. The reality is nuts are used in so many fab cuisines. I still have a major fear of Thai restaurants because when I lived in Pittsburgh, there was a Thai restaurant in Shadyside that always, permanently smelled like peanuts – on the outside. I did try a Thai restaurant on South Street in Philadelphia (I did this for The Husband. What love, I say!), but I used my call-before trick. I also said a dozen Hail Marys.

2. If the menu is available online, check it out. This gives you an idea of what you’re in for. If everything has nuts, maybe you shouldn't go to the place.

3. Tell the server right away that you have a food allergy.

4. Tell the server again after you order your appie and entrée.

5. Tell the server again when you order dessert. This may seem psycho to you, but look, a server is not just serving you. He or she most likely is serving many other tables where there are customers with their own issues. This also will help prevent errors or cross-contamination.

6. Be pleasant, but firm when you tell the server about your food allergy. He or she may go into detail about the menu, steering you clear of the offending items.

7. DO NOT ask for substitutions. So the spinach salad looks fab, but it has walnuts; or the salmon sounds delish but it’s crusted in pistachios. Yeah, forget those. Pick something that is already nut free. The kitchen DOES NOT want to swap this for that. Also, substitutions lead to the likelihood of error. And in a severe food allergy situation, we really don’t want that.

8. Have a backup. This is how I order: “I’ll have the mahi mahi, but if there are nuts in the dish please tell me and I will change my order.” Usually, the server says, “I will check with the kitchen right now and let you know.” If there’s a prob, I have a backup choice. Problem solved.

9. If the server/kitchen is unsure, change your order. This happens a lot with desserts because some restaurants don’t make dessert on the premise. Better safe than sorry is a cliché because it’s true. Besides, do you really need the chocolate mousse? Or, as my husband says, “Babydoll, you can make the chocolate mousse better than they make it here.” Good husband.

10. Look at your food before you eat. Yes, I am a total control freak. But, I have been served nuts by mistake. So, I always take a good look. If something looks mysterious, I have The Husband taste it. Hee.

11. If there are nuts on your plate, kindly send it back and order something else.

12. “My girlfriend’s a vegetarian, so that pretty much makes me a vegetarian.” Samuel L. Jackson’s words in "Pulp Fiction" ring true for vegetarians – and food allergy sufferers linked in coupledom. I have a food allergy, so The Husband does not order anything with nuts or peanuts or his beloved peanut butter or anything else that may cause me to keel over.

13. You scan the menu and it looks like EVERYTHING has nuts. Oh no, now what? This has happened to me, people. When Mark and I got hitched, my sister and her then-fiance-now-husband bought us a gift card to La Bec Fin. At the time, this was THE restaurant to go to in Philadelphia. It also cost like $700 to eat there. I was allergic to every single god damn dessert they served. OK. I’m over it. The dinner was SUPER amazing. I mean for $700, it better be, right? Right. So, I just didn’t eat any dessert. But, this is the case at frou frou schi schi restaurants at times regarding entrees. Keep looking, there usually is at least one non-nut entrée or salad or appie. You may need to amend my No Substitution rule and remind yourself to not return to this nutty restaurant.

14. Have fun. My No. 13 item is a rarity it seems, and if that does happen, don’t let it bring you down. And don’t let it deter you from trying new, different and unique restaurants and cuisines. We learn so much about other cultures from dining out. I hope my 14 tips help you!